Hi all! My obsession with flowers and spring continues, this time at the New York Botanical Garden. I went to Fordham University, which is literally across the street from the NYBG, so I knew it well. I visited the New York Botanical Garden this spring to enjoy a nice walk and some gorgeous pink trees (I’m obsessed). Here are some rambly photos:
Ever put together an outfit you really like but then get nervous about actually wearing it? I really loved this skirt but it’s kind of hard to wear with my proportions. The asymmetrical hem is long on one side and the front is super short, so to balance the hem I knotted the skirt on one side and added a kimono to make this outfit a little more flowy. Then of course I added knee socks, because of course. I do like the finished effect.
This skirt. Well, this skirt is from Easy Pickins, a very affordable place to shop here in the Yonkers/Bronx area. The pickins are usually easy, providing you wade through the stocked clearance racks and really search for gems. This skirt is one of those gems. I initially bought it to wear with my Jordan Baker/flapper costume for Halloween, and have had to think of new ways to incorporate it into a normal wardrobe.
skirt from Easy Pickins, kimono and boots from Forever 21, necklace from H&M
I love long, drapey things and anything white/cream/beige. I am loving soft colors lately. It has since gotten colder here in New York and impossibly rainy, but on the day I took these it was a perfect sunny, early autumn day. This climbing ivy is legit. And I will keep wearing these Nasty Gal boots while the weather—and my pedicure—holds out!
I wore this to an early birthday celebration at Havana Cafe in the Bronx. It was hot hot hot out and we sat out on the patio during brunch and just soaked up the sun and sipped cocktails. That was a perfect pre-birthday celebration for me.
boots from Nasty Gal, skirt from Forever 21, sweater kimono from Marshalls (One Clothing), leaf necklace from Aldo
This one really means a lot. When I started this blog I just wrote about the books I’d read. It was straightforward reviews and iPhone photos, and that was only ten months ago. Then I started asking my family to take some outfit shots, and started experimenting with fashion blogging. And now, almost a year after I began this blog, I feel like it has morphed into something I could never have imagined. This feels like my home, this little corner of the Internet world. The Sisterhood of the World awards mean a lot to me because I have striven to make this blog accessible to women like me: women who like reading, learning and teaching, who love fashion and beauty, who are struggling with life choices and dating, et cetera. So thank you! Thank you for reading, commenting and following.
Questions from Bold Beautiful Belle:
1. Favorite book series? Always Harry Potter.
2. Favorite restaurant? The Bronx Alehouse!
3. Favorite poem? The Lady of Shalott, Tennyson
4. Favorite flower? Lily of the valley
5. Favorite Disney princess? Ariel or Megara
6. Favorite way to spend Saturday night? Going out to the crappy bars in my area with my friends and cousins.
7. Favorite way to exercise? Aaahhh, I don’t exercise as much as I should but I do like taking long walks.
8. Favorite accessory? Rings.
9. Favorite place in the world? This is so hard. Maybe Italy, maybe a cabin in Alaska, maybe a bookstore in Peekskill. Maybe my own bed 😉
10. Would you rather DIY or buy from a store? Depends on my mood. Sometimes I love to be creative and save money and make something, at others I would rather shell out half my savings to buy something ready made!
Questions from The North Star:
1. If you could have one superpower, what would it be? Probably the ability to change my appearance at will, like Tonks in Harry Potter. It means I’ll never have to fiddle with a curling iron ever again! Makes life easier.
2. Who is your favourite Disney character and why? It’s a toss-up between Ariel, Megara, and Aladdin.
3. What is your favourite color? Red! I love its boldness.
4. Who is the person who has inspired you the most? JK Rowling and my father.
5. What is your favourite number? (Most people I know have never thought of an answer to this question) 716 is my lucky number.
6. When was the last time you did something really spontaneous? Oooh, that’s a bad one. Probably some drunken escapade.
7. Do you like roller coasters that go upside down? Naaaah.
8. What time of year do you like the most and why? Spring. I love the colors of the flowers and the smell of the air.
9. If you could visit any country in the world, where would you go? Italy, to see my family, or India.
10. What is/was your favourite subject at school and has/had this always been your favourite or did you love something new every year? I always loved English/Literature and obviously still do.
Here are my own nominations for this illustrious award:
And my questions:
1. What time period would you go to if you could time travel?
2. Do you watch TV or read at night?
3. What was your favorite book when you were a kid?
4. What is your least favorite social media account?
5. Did your blogging dreams live up to reality?
6. What did you want to be when you were younger?
7. What’s the beauty item you could never live without?
8. Are you iPhone or Android?
9. What are you looking forward to most in the near future?
10. What is your drink of choice?
Recently I had a talk with a fellow recent college grad. She told me I should move out, because moving out gives you a great sense of independence and makes you grow into an adult so much faster. She’s back at home after graduation and her mother is still washing her clothes. She asks her mom for money when she goes out to bars on the weekends. When she was at college, she would call her mom to put food money on her debit card. Such independence.
When I was thirteen years old, my father asked me if I’d like to start working at our family business, a restaurant we own and operate. I was thrilled and said yes. For the past ten years I’ve worked there, throughout high school and in college, when I commuted to the Bronx campus of Fordham university. Since I was 13, I haven’t asked my parents for a single cent for myself. And I’ve lived at home for all my adult life.
When old friends ask me what I’m doing with my life now, they get really condescending when I tell them I live at home. One friend told me, “you were always a homebody” and laughed. I get frustrated, because not only do I enjoy living with my family rather than have to share a bathroom with three other girls, but I truly don’t see what the big deal is all about.
True, that most of the time living at home is a luxury. There’s no rent to pay, no annoying roommates. Lucky for me, I live half an hour away from New York City, so relocating for work was never an option. I understand the necessity for moving out, but I don’t understand the stigma of staying at home.
For me at least, living at home made me force myself into independence. I never wanted to be irresponsible or take advantage of my parents’ hospitality, or stunt my adult growth by letting my mom do my chores. Also, living at home during college gave me perspective about the future. My parents never limited my college activities (shenanigans) but it helped that I knew I was grounded in reality, unlike most college students. It was a vastly different experience, but I’m grateful for it.
“So what now?” people say. “Are you going to move out?” Well, let me tell you: I’d love to follow in my friends’ footsteps and have a fabulous apartment in Chelsea or the Upper East Side, but I can’t afford it right now. Living at home gives me financial security, something I’d rather boast than Central Park views or a short commute. It’s different, once again, but I won’t feel shame about it. I’m proud of it. If my life changes and that New York dream becomes a reality, that will be wonderful. But right now, I’m content with my setup. I’ve cultivated a relationship with my parents, sisters, cousins that would have been sacrificed if I’d moved out for college or after, and those relationships are now invaluable to me.
I think the stigma of living at home is something a lot of young people fear needlessly. There’s no shame in it. And it’s pretty awesome knowing you’re coming home to people who love and support you. If you can do it, don’t be ashamed of it. And save some money in the bargain. Your student loans will thank you.